Man loses job opportunity after threatening remarks on dating app
You shouldn’t be a jerk if you aren’t willing to accept the consequences. A Boston area man lost out on a job opportunity after making threatening remarks. When the woman posted the screenshot online, her friend, a corporate recruiter, recognized the man and rejected his job application.
There’s never really a good reason to be a jerk to women, and there’s definitely never a reason to cross the line into threatening or violent remarks. But one Boston-area man just learned the hard way that acting like a baby when a girl doesn’t want to sleep with you doesn’t pay — literally.
A woman, who chose to be unidentified for fear of retaliation, told Fox 25 Boston that in the process of screening her OkCupid matches, she came upon the man in question. His brilliant opener was “Damn you’re fucking hot,” which didn’t go over well. Then it went from bad to worse.
At least come up with something more original than that goddamn sandwich joke, dude.
“Not a great way to speak to a man. Get back in the kitchen and when my sandwich is done bend over until I’m finished with you,” the man wrote.
It would have ended there had the woman simply blocked him and moved on, but she posted the screenshot online, perhaps as a warning to other women who might match with him. But one of the woman’s friends is Sarah Oliver, who works as a recruiter for several tech startups. She instantly recognized the man as a job applicant, and she shared on Reddit what happened next.
“This guy looked qualified for the job on paper, so I had him in the batch to follow up with tomorrow, but no more. I sent him a rejection note this morning saying that he should be nicer to women on the internet, she said.
“So let this be a lesson to gross dudes everywhere who think the anonymity of the internet will protect you… it will not. You never know who will broadcast your messages for laughs, and potential employers may see them.”
Surprisingly, the Reddit peanut gallery was positive, and supportive of her decision to axe the man’s application. Some commentators did however bring up the prospect of a lawsuit, but nope: “being an asshole to women” is not a protected class, and at least in Massachusetts, it’s a perfectly valid reason for not hiring someone.
“I have shared this thread with my employers and they think it’s hilarious and that I did the right thing. Please stop threatening to doc and/or sue me,” Oliver wrote in an edit.